by July 16th, 2009. Filed under: wedding scrapbook ideas.
Bridesmaid in wedding, short on money, want to scrapbook. Suggestions?>>
missy posted:
My bf and I have been going back and forth over this. He is the groomsmen for one of his best friend’s wedding, and I’ve gotten quite close to both the groom and bride. I’ve also been getting into scrapbooking lately, and would love to scrapbook a page for them and frame it. It would be on 12×12 paper and in a special scrapbooking frame. I think we will probably pair it with another gift, perhaps off the registry, but I think it would be enough on its own. My bf thinks not, because he says the gift should be as much as our dinner at the wedding, but I think with the time I would take to make the gift, as well as the cost of the materials, (which can get pretty pricey!!) as well as the special handmade factor, it would be even. What do you think?
My bf and I have been going back and forth over this. He is the groomsmen for one of his best friend’s wedding, and I’ve gotten quite close to both the groom and bride. I’ve also been getting into scrapbooking lately, and would love to scrapbook a page for them and frame it. It would be on 12×12 paper and in a special scrapbooking frame. I think we will probably pair it with another gift, perhaps off the registry, but I think it would be enough on its own. My bf thinks not, because he says the gift should be as much as our dinner at the wedding, but I think with the time I would take to make the gift, as well as the cost of the materials, (which can get pretty pricey!!) as well as the special handmade factor, it would be even. What do you think?
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July 19th, 2009 at 1:22 am
i think it’s fine. and u can get an elegant wedding photo album as addition to that
July 22nd, 2009 at 10:44 am
it replaces a card not a gift. It is a nice idea but does not rtake the place of a gift in my mind
July 23rd, 2009 at 12:33 pm
I agree with you totally! What a wonderfully personal and thoughtfull gift. It’s something they will cherish forever. They will always remember you made it for them.
July 25th, 2009 at 9:11 pm
I think it’s an appropriate, heartfelt and nicely thought out gift for a wedding. I think that it’s ridiculous that people think that their guests should essentially pay for their dinner by buying expensive gifts. If you want to have people at your wedding, you should be ready to foot the bill. Gifts are just that = GIFTS!
July 27th, 2009 at 11:31 am
Although it’s not set in stone, a wedding gift should be at least in the $50-$75 range.
July 29th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
I think that’s a perfect gift on it’s own. I just recently got married and I would have loved to have received a gift with that much thought into it! Mostly I just received cash, which is nice, but it also means that no one wanted to put the time into actually buying a gift. A handmade gift is a wonderful idea!
August 1st, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Depends on the people, I personally **** scrap books so I won’t want it and would have to store it some where. Other people would love it! It really depends on the couple.
I personally would be on the side of your boyfriend and save the scrap book for a birthday or christmas gift idea.
August 1st, 2009 at 8:04 pm
In New York, we give money. You will be looked at like a cheapskate if you do that. Give like $200 and that.
August 5th, 2009 at 7:04 am
i think it’s really sweet of you to want to make something for them. price should not be a factor if you are really good friends. i think you should go for it! the newly weds will appreciate your effort.
August 6th, 2009 at 5:58 am
General rule of thumb is to spend approximately as much as it costs them for you to attend the wedding.
I think that the scrapping booking idea is great. I am sure that the bride will love it. Putting in time and effort always means more.
If the engaged couple are very low on funds and need things from their registry though, I would go with the traditional spending limit ( depends on you and your b/f’s financial situation as well).
Whatever you decide, I am sure will be fine. You know both the bride and groom better than any of us do. Maybe ask some other people who are close to the bride and groom as well, to see what they think. Good Luck.
August 6th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
Not to be rude, but you should think about what you would like to get as a gift and get them that. Honestly, would you like to get the kind of gift you’re making for them. What if it doesn’t match the decor they’ve chosen for their house? Then you will have spent all that time making something that they won’t even use. You should get them something they need off their registry, and after that if you still feel like making them something then do that. When it comes time for you to get married, they’ll remember what you got them and get you something of equal value.
August 8th, 2009 at 12:42 am
Your boyfriend is right .
He’s in the wedding party, therefore, a better gift than a piece of construction paper is expected.
Buy something very nice off the wedding registry for Pete’s sake. He’s a groomsman and he will look like a cheapstake in front of his friends. Awful!
Good luck
August 9th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Wow! I didn’t know people got married just to receive gifts. I think it sound really nice and very thoughtful.
August 9th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
I agree with you. This is because it is a personal touch that would mean so very much, if they are close friends.
Things like that that is done with much thought and love , I think, is priceless!!!
But if the bride and groom are materialistic and calculative type of people, then it would be a different matter altogether. If it were my wedding present, I would be touched to tears!
On my 10th wedding anniversary, my husband and I renewed our vows and had a party. One guest made us a photo album with lace etc….so pretty! Another crotcheted a doll which has the skirt part as a container for odds and ends which are small…e.g. jewelry.
So it depends on the couple. If they are close friends you will know what kind of folks they are.
August 11th, 2009 at 7:12 pm
I got my sister a wedding poem and had their wedding date and names put on it and I had it framed.They really liked that.Its something they can hang in their house and see everyday.Just like the one you want to make for them.Scrapbook page with pictures of them is an excellent idea.Its something they will cherish and can pass down to their kids.Or you can make the scrapbook page and use it as one of the decorations at the wedding.My sister had a table where the bridal book was and there was a scrapbook frame there.That way all the family and friends seen it and the bride and groom gets to keep it.Then you can still get a gift for the couple also.
August 14th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
This would only work if the couple regarded scrapbooking as highly as you do. Most people probably don’t (sorry to say). Rather than give what you consider to be valuable, give in addition what would be valuable to them (probably $$ to 1: cover the costs for the wedding and 2: to help get their life together started on financially stable ground.)
August 15th, 2009 at 11:58 am
Honestly….
If you can afford a regular gift I think you should get them one. It’s one thing if you can’t afford anything else other than you scrapbooking page but one framed page isn’t really much at all. If you were going to go that route I think you would need to do something like offer to scrapbook the whole wedding album.
Not a single person who knows me would classify me as “materialstic and calculative” as one judgemental poster has suggested but you are really close with these people and scrapbooking just might not be their thing. My aunt makes homemade cards and everybody loves to get them but wouldn’t consider that a gift in and of itself.
August 17th, 2009 at 10:27 pm
i think it would be a nice gift. it shows you put a lot of work into it. and something little on the side wouldnt be too bad. and how are you supposed to know what they are spending on the dinner? so why would you go by that as a guideline??? i **** that so much emphasis is put on money now a days.
August 20th, 2009 at 3:54 pm
I think it is a lovely thing to give the newlyweds, but I’m with your BF that it should be paired up with something else (or even cash).
I spend months hand-making some things (I knit and cross-stitch) and while the sentimental value can never be estimated, I often use the hand-made items as a supplement to another gift. Or give my hand-made items as little token “Thank You” type gifts.
I realize the time, effort and expense can still be significant for handmade items, but for a wedding, I would definitely add something to it.
August 22nd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
It sounds like a great idea. However, it should be paired with a gift of monetary value.
Whether you agree with it or not, right or wrong, its reality. People expect money at their weddings.
August 24th, 2009 at 7:01 am
i think it is a lovely idea. although, i would pair it with something else. even if it a 20 dollar gift card to one of the places that they registered at.
besides, you don’t know if those poeple are into scrapbooking or if it suites their style and would hang it up at home.
August 25th, 2009 at 12:45 am
I think that it is a wonderful idea. I would love to receive a gift like this. More personal and heartfelt. Gifts aren’t about the money. They are about the thought and consideration that is taken when choosing them. I think it would be plenty on its own. However, if you want to include something from the registry that is also fine. I don’t know who’s idea it was to say that you should spend 50-75 dollars on a gift. Thats just greed. People should be happy getting whatever it is they receive, and if they are ungrateful they don’t deserve anything in my book.
August 27th, 2009 at 12:43 am
I think that it’s not enough. The framed gift can be from you but he should be spending quite a bit more for something additional since he is in the wedding. At least $100.
August 27th, 2009 at 6:48 am
have you thought about giving them the scrap book as a shower gift maybe??????
August 27th, 2009 at 10:43 pm
I do think it would be a great compliment to a gift, but not sufficient in itself to be a whole gift.
August 29th, 2009 at 10:23 am
The whole “the gift should be as much as our dinner at the wedding” is pure bullshit. How in the world would you KNOW how much it cost unless you were the bride or groom?
Ignore that gift=cost of dinner thing.
Buy what you want to buy with however much you want to spend.
I think the scrapbooking page sounds like a good idea. Put it in a nice frame perhaps?
Your friends will truly cherish something that was hand made from a good friend like you.
Tell b/f if he doesn’t like it, then buy his OWN gift for the couple.